Tammy Lea Lam's Obituary
Tammy Lea Lam, beloved mother, grandmother, sister, spouse, and friend, passed away on May 8, 2026, at the age of 64. Tammy’s life was defined by extraordinary strength, unwavering devotion to family, and a heart so generous that she continuously placed the needs of others before her own.
Born on June 7, 1961, in Richmond, West Virginia, Tammy was the proud daughter of a coal miner. After the passing of her father, David Tharp, Tammy moved to Louisiana with her mother in 1976. From an early age, she learned resilience, sacrifice, and the importance of family—values she carried with her throughout her entire life.
Tammy was the heart of her family. She was a loving daughter, devoted mother, cherished grandmother, caring sister, faithful spouse, and loyal friend. Nothing was ever too much for Tammy when it came to the people she loved. She gave endlessly, often doing without herself to ensure her family had what they needed. Her children and grandchildren were the center of her world, and she remained deeply connected to her brothers and sisters throughout her life.
A woman of incredible courage and determination, Tammy faced and overcame many hardships. As a military wife, she lived in multiple states and foreign countries, often far from the family she treasured. Through difficult times and personal struggles, she remained steadfast and compassionate. With endless patience and love, she devoted herself to caring for her second husband, Roy Lam, during six months of hospice care until his passing, and afterward continued on as a widowed mother caring for their autistic son with high support needs.
Tammy’s selflessness touched countless lives. In 2002, after her daughter suffered a devastating car accident, Tammy became her full-time caretaker—helping her relearn how to walk, talk, and care for herself again. In 2012, Tammy lovingly cared for her mother, Barbara Holbert, through hospice until her final day. That same year, her sister Pamela Gent spent her final days surrounded by Tammy’s comfort and love, passing peacefully in Tammy’s arms.
Time and again, Tammy stepped forward whenever family needed her most—whether pulling loved ones back from the brink of death or holding them close through their final breaths. Her family always came first: her children, grandchildren, siblings, mother, and extended loved ones. Friends came second, and Tammy always placed herself last.
In 2017, when her first husband returned to Louisiana, Tammy once again opened her heart and home with love and compassion. She welcomed him back into her life and family, embracing the support he offered as a father figure to her sons.
Tammy possessed one of the biggest hearts anyone could ever know—a heart filled with love, sacrifice, strength, and compassion. Though that loving heart ultimately gave out, the legacy she leaves behind will continue through every life she touched.
Tammy was preceded in death by her father, David Tharp; her mother, Barbara Holbert; her second husband, Roy Lam; her sisters, Pamela Gent and Penny Tharp; her niece, Catherine Capehart; and her great-nephew, Xzavier Capehart.
She is survived by her significant other, Charles Clark Jr. of Pickering, LA; her children, Charles Clark III of Georgetown, KY, Veronica Merworth of Anacoco, LA, Marion Beason of Leesville, LA, and Roy Lam of Pickering, LA; her stepchildren, Antonio Lam of DeRidder, LA, Christopher Lam of DeRidder, LA, and Tiffany Jones of Kerbyville, TX; her sisters Teresa Barker of Chateau, MT, and Sandra Anderson of DeRidder, LA; her brothers, Richard and Ricardo Moralez of DeRidder, LA; 19 grandchildren; 4 great-grandchildren; and numerous nieces, nephews, extended family members, and friends who will forever cherish her memory.
Tammy’s life was a testament to unconditional love, sacrifice, and perseverance. She will be deeply missed, forever remembered, and endlessly loved.
The family request that in lieu of flowers donations be made to Labby Memorial Funeral Home by calling the funeral home directly.
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